Last month Reassigned Time was called “selfish” for planning to go on the market for a job she may like better than the one she has. I find it is very strange how often professors are told they are selfish, arrogant, or childish to want other jobs and/or other careers. But it is true. The reasons I have been given why I should stay in academia, or in particular academic jobs I have had, include the following:
+ I should be grateful to have a career and no children, and I should therefore suck up whatever my current job dishes out;
+ I have an academic job and not everyone who wants one does, therefore I should keep mine whether I want it or not;
+ I am good at this, so I am probably not good at anything else.
I also note that the words selfish, childish, and arrogant are typically those used to shame women into relinquishing independence.