A program at my university is having a fundraiser so their building can be finished. It involves a $50 dinner ticket, and buying drinks at the bar, and participating in a silent auction.
No, I do not have the money; yes, I have other priorities, anyway; no, I am not comfortable being asked to make this kind of contribution to the university.
On the other hand: I already have thousands sitting on cards, to cover for conferences, professional dues, and books, that I will be teaching summer school and grading the AP exam to pay off. Some might say: what is another $65 or so in these circumstances, when the person in charge is serving as a reference for you, when this is a tax deduction, and when it could mean a chance to hobnob with some of the right people?
I still say no; if I were to donate $65 somewhere I would send it to, say, the United Negro College Fund. Yet I feel coerced and cornered. How would this make you feel?